How can I ask someone privately when I don't know who, if anybody, has a similar concept among their species? Why do you humans always think of your own convenience first, like it's not possible that that your culture might be fucking mystifying to the rest of us? Nobody ever bothers to worry about if their behavior is culturally offensive to the non-humans in the hiveblock but as soon as you do something out of the norm by a human's standards every bulge-polisher in a hoofbeast's radius has to put their rotted pan's corroded beetles into the mix?