If you want to read romance, read romance. Don't get creepy about being fooled by the simulation.

In most games it's not full immersion. You lean a certain way or touch a control and your character moves and you start to call it 'me', but most people who make the games don't build in painful feedback. That'd make people stop trying to play.

So they usually have really weird ways of portraying injury, like, a diode being drained but no matter what your avatar's suffered, as long as some is left it's still just as capable as when it was whole. And if it runs out and 'you' die, that's not the end at all.

Some of them are meant to be more realistic than others. It's all relative though.